Using the word easy might be a bit of a stretch because it implies that my assumption is; what works for one, will likely work out the same for all, and we know that’s not the case. As humans we are different but change is something that everyone experiences and the methods I’m sharing with you today I believe will work for everyone. I think some of the options will take some type to adopt especially if it’s not a process that you’re accustomed to using. Accepting change would be easier if it were a “no brainer”, in some cases we have no control over change when it occurs. Speaking for myself, when faced with change I automatically accept it because it’s a part of life, I’ve dealt with it many many times in the past, and I know I will get use to whatever the change is. I mentioned in last week’s post that change can be hard but we have to keep this in mind; it won’t be hard forever. At some point change becomes a natural part of our lives. With that said, the first method we can use too easily accept change is.
- FOCUS ON THE FUTURE–In the previous paragraph I mentioned that change will eventually become a natural part of our lives. If we step outside the momentary inconvenience that change may illicit, and focus on the potential long term benefits it will help us become more accepting of change. For example, in last week’s post I mentioned that I have some resilience to change but what helps me is knowing I will get use to whatever the new change is. A typical reaction from me might be “Ugh, something new. But it’s okay, I’ll get use to it.” That mindset and reaction really helps me.
- ADOPT A MORE OPEN MINDSET–Mindset is everything, not just when it comes to change but with all things in life, it just makes dealing with things that much easier. Adopting an open mindset, opens our minds to just about anything that we encounter. I don’t think it makes you gullible, but depending on the situation it can eliminate (or alleviate) our concerns, worries, pushback, skepticism, or hesitation.
- CHECK IN–When you encounter change, check in with yourself and think about how you feel and you’re reaction. This is similar to a self-assessment and will take some time to embed if you’re not use to it; especially if you’re reaction to change is usually an eye roll, some form of sighing, or just shutting down. The purpose of the check in is to a). determine how you feel, and b) working on shifting that negative behavior or reaction. If you choose this method, this change will take time but having the awareness around your reaction to change is a great first step.
What’s your story around change? Is it a concept that you spend a lot of time stressing over? Or is it usually the furtherest thing from your mind? I often write these post for my readers who may struggle in certain areas but I hardly ever think about those who couldn’t care less, who don’t see the big deal, or who don’t understand why it’s so difficult for others but not for them. My instinct is telling me to say something about balance because we don’t want to be too far on either end of the spectrum. But in a situation like this, do what works best for your sanity. What I won’t encourage is being completely resistant to the possibility of something new or a shift. Both are the foundations to change, be receptive.
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