I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy to finally complete a self-care focus for the month lol. This one was really hard, how many ways can we possibly write about receiving gifts in the form of self-care? But I think I was able to pull it off and keep the challenges for the past month relevant to the self-care focus. Now that we are closing out the self-care love language focus, which one(s) were your favorite? I covered Quality Time, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmations, Physical Touch, and of course Receiving Gifts. They’ve each had their own unique benefits but I think Words of Affirmations were my favorite. They were fun to create and I loved the way I crafted each post; it was not your typical approach to daily self-care habits. Earlier in the month I thought about creating a self-care love language quiz for you to decide which focus best fits you but since I did not originate the self-care love languages, I was afraid I would be imposing on some copyright infringements so I decided against it. Instead, I provided the first blog post for each love language above and if you’re interested, you can check out each option and see which one resonates the most with you.
Investing in yourself! How many ways can we define it? Self-care itself is an investment so if you engage in any form of self-care at any given time you’re essentially investing in yourself. I think the common denominator for investing in one’s self revolves around finances. For example, making a large purchase, putting money aside after you get paid before paying bills, starting a business, etc. But If you say you’re going to get a massage, most times our initial thought isn’t “wow, you’re investing in yourself.” I think investing in one’s self can mean many things, it just depends on the situation. It can obviously be financial, but it can also be any form of self-care, starting a family (that’s an investment in yourself and your relationship), changing careers, etc. it’s all in how you look at things….your mindset.
I try not to repeat myself and use the same challenges too often so this week I worked on trying to provide seven semi unique ways we can invest in ourselves through self-care.
SET LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM GOALS You may already have a list and if so, go through it and make some tweaks, set some timelines, or assess the progress you’ve already made. If you don’t have a set of short and long term goals list, today is your opportunity to create one. If you’re not sure where to start, check out my blog post on Aggressively editing your life. It’s a four part series, I suggest starting with part one.
SPEND ON EXPERIENCES RATHER THAN MATERIAL THINGS This is an interesting one, and I really like the idea of this. In some cases these experiences may not cost you a thing. Some of the best experiences I’ve had was when things didn’t go as planned but we made the best of it. And years down the line we talked and laughed about it. Making memories with others is the true investment. Plan something with a friend or family members.
START A BUCKET LIST I was once told I was too young to start one. But I dont think we’re ever too young to work on a list of things that we want to do. We don’t have to wait until we are about to die before we choose to start living and enjoy our lives. If you don’t have one, start one. It doesn’t have to be a long list. And it doesn’t have to be a list of super adventurous options like climbing Mt. Everest. Maybe create a list of 3-5 things that you can accomplish in a year or two. One item on my bucket list is going to Vegas.
EXPAND YOUR NETWORK I heard somewhere once that if you’re the smartest person in the room then you’re in the wrong room. If you find that you spend time with people who are just like you, consider diversifying your circle. I’m not necessarily referring to race or gender. I’m also considering mindset and life experiences. Surround yourself with people and things that will allow you to grow and look at the world differently.
PUT SOME EFFORT INTO HOW YOU LOOK I’m not saying you should be superficial but if you look good you feel good. I try to make it a point to keep up with my grooming (waxing, manis and pedis) it’s my “me time” and it makes me feel better when I take the time to invest in how I present myself each day.
READ EDUCATIONAL AND NON-EDUCATIONAL BOOKS I know a lot of people who read for pure entertainment but I think it’s important to also read so you can learn new things. It comes in handy. Someone I follow on social media said she’s an avid reader and she can always tell when someone is an avid reader based on the conversations she has with them. When you’re a reader, it shows.
DEVELOP A DAILY ROUTINE I always fall off the bandwagon with this. I’m working hard on being the type of person who goes to bed and wake up early to meditate, workout and start my day. I’m the opposite lol. The most that I do is give myself some quiet time before I start my day. I’ve noticed that when I stick with a routine, I get so much more done, especially if I wake up early.
I really love these ideas, they’re not the typical self-care challenge approach, they’re more like a list of ideas we can add to our lives to make it better. Maybe they’re not all appealing to you but maybe there are two or three from the list that you’re willing to invest in to make your life better.
Self-Care on the go are essentially bite size versions of my self-care challenges. It’s open to anyone but it’s specifically created for moms and other working women; who may not have time to participate in all (or any) of the challenges that I provide weekly because of their mommy duties or busy work schedule. You can access the infographic HERE. I’ve been posting them every Sunday since the beginning of the year and I really enjoy creating them. If you’re one of my readers who participate in, or enjoy these options because you find them convenient, leave a comment and let me know what you like about them or what you think I should change. Thanks for going on this self-care journey again with me this week.
By the way, if you’re interested, my Newsletter and Self-Care Accountability Worksheet is now available. The worksheet will act as a supplement to my daily self-care challenges. The purpose is to help you stay on track with your daily self-care routines. If you’re interested in receiving these items weekly, email me at email@example.com. The self-care worksheet is FREE, but will only be available to my Newsletter subscribers. I will NOT spam you, I will only email once per week.
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