At the beginning of December I wrote a blog post on how to aggressively edit your life. While I’m sure this may mean different things for different people, my concept of aggressively editing your life means taking inventory. It means starting big and narrowing your goals down to something more attainable and achievable. It’s a major tool for addressing our emotional self-care—the self-care habits that addresses our well-being and our overall emotional health. When you aggressively edit, you work on not only identifying the barriers that hold you back but you actively start working on eliminating those barriers. You can read more here. For the month of May I was drawing a blank with picking a Wellness Wednesday focus for the month, I’m not sure why but some how I thought it would be a great idea to work through the pillars on my aggressively edit your life post (I created a worksheet for it which I will post somewhere at the end of the blog for you). For the month of May, I will write about the following:
My goal for doing this in a four part series is to allow us to work through each of the steps together for the month. The worksheet I developed is intended to be a roadmap to help with the necessary steps we need to take in order to aggressively make changes in our lives. And the worksheet will help you move through each stage of the above throughout the month. Earlier in the post I mentioned that aggressively editing your life means starting big and narrowing your goals down to something more attainable and achievable. Below is an example of what I mean by this:
In order to reach your goal, I felt it necessary to go through a few key steps. All too often some of us make goals that we hardly ever achieve, unless we are held accountable or have a tool that keeps us accountable (e.g. my worksheet). So the first step in aggressively editing your life which will be our focus for this week is The State Of Uncertainty. The State of Uncertainty asks; Where are you at in your life right now? We have to ask ourselves this question before we determine where it is we want to be, even if you have an idea of where you want to be, in order to get there, you have to go through the necessary steps. For this week, I want you to spend the week responding to this question. Use the (free) worksheet that I’ve provided below and do a brain dump of everything that comes to mind (especially if it’s negative). I’m a visual person, so I’ll create a pseudo issue for us to navigate through as an example for those who need some more clarity.
Where are you at in your life right now?
- I don’t feel fulfilled
- I feel like there is more that I should be doing
- I like my job but I question if it’s enough
- I have a great social life but the pandemic has made things tough
- Maybe I should do some traveling, but I’m not sure
- I feel like there’s something missing in my life
- I bought a home last year
- My wife and I had another baby
- I’ve managed to pull in some extra income despite the uncertainty of this pandemic
You get the picture. You’re essentially working through a list, and it can be as long (or as short) as you want it to be. Just be sure that it’s packed with information that thoroughly describes how you feel and what you’re going through. This will not work if you half-ass it. Since you have an entire week, don’t feel pressure to get this all done in one night. I suggest taking the entire week (or most of the week) to fill out the sheet just in case something new comes to mind. This is a great activity to do first thing in the morning before you start your day. Here is the link to the worksheet.
I hope you’re as excited about this as I am, I really think this is a great activity for our emotional self-care, it also creates opportunities for you to get to know yourself on a deeper level and, it’s a form of journaling. You may even learn something new about yourself. Just don’t let it scare you, I wrote about uncertainty in the past and I believe we all struggle with it, as long as you put some effort it to making changes you will not be defeated.
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