Happy Valentines Day and Happy be-lated Galentines Day! I just learned about Galentines Day yesterday, where have I been?!? lol, if you’re not familiar, it’s celebrated on February 13th and is “a day to leave husbands, boyfriends, and significant others at home and gather with other women to celebrate female friendships.” You can learn more about it on this site. Yesterday was also National Self-love Day. Another day I never heard about until early last week. Self-love Day is a day that gives us the perfect reason to finally treat ourselves. I feel like I give us a lot of reasons to do that every day with my blog post but it’s nice to know the that there’s a day dedicated to doing just that. I don’t have an issue with Valentines Day but I don’t like that some of us feel left out and lonely on this day. Even if you’re not in a relationship, it does not mean that you can’t celebrate yourself the same way someone else would if you weren’t single. Normalize Celebrating yourself!
“Self-Care for Beginners!” I’m pretty sure it’s not a real thing but I like to think of it as an opportunity for those who never take time for self-care, to make time for self-care. Back in November I wrote a blog post about a conversation that I had with my mother. I was visiting her for Thanksgiving and I asked her if she ever participated in my self-care challenges. Her response was; “I don’t know how you find time for that stuff.” People who think like my mother are the “beginners” I’m referring to, this week’s challenges are made for you. Much like my mother, you may find that self-care for you may not look like typical self-care activities. For example, self-care for my mother is a clean house, clean laundry, budget done, etc. so she can relax and watch television without any added stress or worries about what she needs to take care of. This week I worked on a few ideas that I think will fall under the beginners category. It’s a list of activities that we all engage in but I’m encouraging us to look at it through a self-care lens.
Sunday–TAKE THE NIGHT OFF FROM COOKING today is Valentines Day so many of you may not have any plans to cook but if you plan on it, take the night off and order take out if you can. You can also have leftovers. Or if your kids are older put some stuff out for sandwiches, hot dogs or any other easy meals so you can have the rest of the evening to relax. I highly recommend this if you cook a lot. Some of you probably cook so much that you can’t imagine a night without cooking if this sounds like you, step away from the stove tonight.
Monday–DELEGATE CHORES much like yesterday’s challenge. Take a break from some (or all of your chores). Depending on how things are set up in your household this might be a challenge that will take place on the weekends if you wait until then to handle your chores. If you have no one to delegate your chores to, put them off until another day and if you can afford it, look into getting maid services for the day who knows, it might be worth it.
Tuesday–TAKE EXTRA TIME IN THE SHOWER this is for my busy moms and other busy women who only have time to hit all the important parts when they take a shower. This might not work for everyone because I know some new moms can’t spend a lot of time in the shower. But if you can, go for it and try not to feel guilty. It’s okay for you to take extra time for yourself, it’s not selfish, it’s actually really important. A long shower may not seem like much but it may be just enough depending on what it is you have going on right now in your life.
Wednesday–MANI/PEDI give yourself a mani/pedi or go out for one. I was hesitant about insisting on going out for one because of the pandemic but if you feel comfortable, do it. Just be safe. Or you can stay in and paint your own nails. If you have daughters get them involved and maybe play around with different colors. In fact, be bold and try a color you would never usually go for. Years ago I went with a friend for a mani/pedi and we decided to pick each other’s colors. She was not a bold polish color person, but I decided to be daring and pick out red for her toe nails we both laughed about it. It was a lot of fun.
Thursday–MAKE A SMALL SACRIFICE especially if you always spread yourself too thin. In one of my previous post I wrote a self-care challenge about the word “no” being a boundary. Maybe that can be your small sacrifice for the day. Say “no” to someones request. Other options would be to be unavailable to someone or something that’s overly demanding or, put off any activity that can easily get done the next day or at another time. Whatever sacrifice you make, be sure that it benefits you and that’s not selfish.
Friday–LIGHTEN YOUR LOAD take something (or several things) off your to do list today and lighten your load. Let go of the idea or the need to feel like you should accomplish everything, all the time, all at once. It’s okay if you fall short sometimes so fall short today on purpose. Some things can wait.
Saturday—DRY BRUSHING I’ve been dry brushing for several months now. I was not aware of this whole concept of dry brushing until I watched one of my favorite YouTubers talk about it last year (or back in 2018). Are you familiar with it? If not, According to self.com “Dry brushing is the process of using a brush with stiff bristles against the skin to help exfoliate dead cells from the skin surface and enhance blood flow.” Here’s what I personally know so far about dry brushing:
- it helps the body release toxins
- you should do it before you get in the shower
- you should brush in an upwards motion towards your heart
If you don’t have a brush. The other alternative would be to exfoliate.
I decided to move my Self-care on the Go for moms and other working women to next week. Since it’s Valentines Day, I decided to create Valentines Day inspired self-care ideas that I think will be suitable for everyone. If you’re not familiar; Self-Care on the go are essentially bite size versions of my self-care challenges. It’s open to anyone but it’s specifically created for moms and other working women; who may not have time to participate in all (or any) of the challenges above, because of their mommy duties or busy work schedule. I’ve been posting them every Sunday since the beginning of the year and I really enjoy creating them. You can access the infographic for Valentines Day self-care HERE.
By the way, if you’re interested, my Newsletter and Self-Care Accountability Worksheet is now available. The worksheet will act as a supplement to my daily self-care challenges. The purpose is to help you stay on track with your daily self-care routines. If you’re interested in receiving these items weekly, email me at email@example.com. The self-care worksheet is FREE, but will only be available to my Newsletter subscribers. I will NOT spam you, I will only email once per week.
Let’s Chat! Let me know about your Valentines and Galentines plans this year.
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