How These Five Life Lessons Help Shape Me

As I get older I reminisce on my past and I question some of the decisions I made, cringe at the thought of some of the things I put up with, and laugh at myself for giving someone else more power than I gave to me.  Now, I’m proud because I know now that those past experiences made me who I am today.  Most of us know this but we can always use a reminder.

Lesson 1: OUR YESTERDAYS, TODAYS, AND TOMORROWS SHAPE US INTO WHO WE ARE MEANT TO BE.  

I know it’s hard to see the blessings when we are in the belly of the beast but where ever we are in life, and whatever we are experiencing at the moment is where we are supposed to be.

Lesson 2: BELIEVE IT OR NOT, IT’S AN EVEN BIGGER BLESSING WHEN OUR LIVES FEEL LIKE IT’S FALLING APART. IT’S AN OPPORTUNITY FOR GROWTH.

When we are pushed outside our comfort zone it means it’s time to shed who we are to become a stronger version of ourselves.  

Lesson 3: BECOMING TOO COMFORTABLE AND STAYING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE STIFLES YOUR INNER STRENGTH.

For a long time I allowed other people to make decisions about my life, I was afraid that the decisions I made for myself would not be the right decision for them.  Let me say that again, I WAS AFRAID THAT THE DECISIONS I MADE FOR MYSELF WOULD NOT BE THE RIGHT DECISION FOR THEM. 

Lesson 4: GIVING SOMEONE ELSE YOUR POWER TAKES AWAY YOUR ABILITY TO FORM YOUR OWN IDENTITY.

When I talked about my past with friends I felt ashamed for not displaying my best qualities, and for not mentioning what I brought to the table in any relationship.  Instead, I talked about how I wasn’t good enough, how I gave so much and got nothing in return, and how I felt used.  Today I can say, of course I felt this way, how could I expect to feel anything different when I gave away my power? I “gave away” my voice back then, I didn’t know my own voice.  Sharing this story with others felt like looking in a mirror, I had no idea I spoke so ill of myself because I didn’t hear it the way they heard it.  When you feel like the kid in the dream in high school who showed up naked, you start to look at yourself differently.   

Lesson 5: WHEN WE ARE EXPOSED AND VULNERABLE TO THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES, WE START TO RECOGNIZE OUR FAULTS. IT’S OUR A-HA MOMENT.

We are all on our own journey, The only thing that matters at this moment for you and I is where we are today.  People’s opinion of who we were and why we did what we did in our past should not break us, take their opinions with a kind heart, find a lesson that will help you grow and move on to the next stage in your life.

Does any of this resonate? Let’s Chat!

~~Tam33ks

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I have a long history with mental illness. Overcoming depression made me realize my own resilience. It also made it clear that I wasn’t taking care of myself. I believe that in order for us to fully engage with ourselves and others we have to make time for self-love through our self-care habits. My goal with this blog is to encourage women in my age group to make time for self-care daily.

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